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Convincing Your Parents to Get You a Pet

So you want a pet, but mom and dad are not thrilled. Here are some ideas to consider that are in everyones best interest, including the pets'.

From your Parents viewpoint:

It is your parents job to provide you with food, shelter, and clothing. It is not their job to provide you with a pet. A pet is a lifetime commitment that all too often is dumped on the parents who did not want that responsibility in the first place. A pet is an expensive purchase, because it has on going costs, such as food and care.

 

From the view of the pet:

An pet requires a lot of responsibility. They must be tended to daily, fed, watered, cleaned, and exercised. Some more intelligent animals also require mental stimulation to prevent them from being bored. An animal isn't something you get to make yourself more cool, that animals life, and happiness is in your hands. One of the WORST things that can happen to a pet is that a kid gets it after begging mom and dad, but years later the kid is either bored or moves out and cannot take the pet with them, and mom and dad do not want it. Many pets are abandoned in shelters or euthanized because children who once pleaded for a pet are no longer able or willing to care for it. In all fairness to an animal, unless EVERYONE in the household wants a pet, you should not get one. Unless your parents are fully willing to help financially and understand the lifespan of the animal may exceed your ability to keep it, then you should not get a pet. I am sure you think you will always be willing, and able, to look after your pet, but in reality this doesn't always happen.

Research:

One thing that will help you is knowing what kind of pet you want and what kind of care or expense is required. Do not be set on one kind of animal. For instance, many kids want hamsters but find their habit of running on the wheel at night to be annoying, as such a small rabbit would have been a better choice. Maybe you want a Border Collie (a dog used for herding sheep), but, if you do not have time to keep a Border Collies mind stimulated it will become bored and destructive, so a Shih Tzu, or cat, might make a better pet.

Write down the pros and cons of every pet you might consider. Include things like lifespan, size, activity level required, cost, and housing equipment needed. If it is a horse you are asking for, you must realize these have huge ongoing costs, especially if you must board them at a stable. Do not even ask for a horse unless your parents are horsey people and have a good income.

You will need to check if you can have a pet. If your parents own a house and you want a dog, you should have a fully fenced yard or dog run. Chained dogs have a tendency to become aggressive. If you rent you must make sure you have landlord approval for any pet. If you are planning on moving, you should wait until you move before getting a pet or you may find you must give it up, as very few places allow pets.

If you are looking into something more exotic, like a Sugar Glider, Ferret, or Rat, you need to check if they are legal as pets in your area.

Things you can do:

Try being more helpful around the house to demonstrate your level of responsibility. Keep your room clean and help with other areas too. Get a part time, or summer, job so you can help pay some of the bills your pet will have. Save your money for the pet and pet care, rather than spending it on other things.

Things you cannot do:

Do not beg. Begging is not a good way of ever getting anything. It might work, but it is the wrong way to get a pet. Your parents will never feel good about giving in to your constant begging, and will hold it against the pet. They will just want to "be free" of the burden. Do not guilt them or in anyway try to manipulate them into getting a pet if they really do not want one. In this case it may be best to wait until you are older and can get your own pet after you move out.

The Decision:

As mentioned, the decision lies with your parents, it is them who will ultimately be the ones who make the commitment. They should have FINAL say in what pet you can or cannot get. They should be able to select the pet, this will help them bond with it too. Most places will not sell or adopt to children, and rightfully so. But if your parents are getting you a pet and are saying "If you do not look after it, we get rid of it." then by all means DO NOT get a pet. If they show no interest in animals then DO NOT get a pet. The pet should be referred to as a family pet, not specifically "yours".

Success!

If your parents agreed, I am sure you are thrilled and now have to select the pet. Again, it is critical they play a major part in the selection process. The best place to look for pets is your local animal shelter, they generally have the best value, and selection. Since most are non-profit, they are not motivated by money, so will be honest about each animal. You may find that you have to return several times before finding the animal that is right for your family. One of the benefits of adopting from a shelter is they provide a guarantee and have lots of information available, often free of charge, plus you are truly saving a life, rather than supporting an industry of breeding animals solely for profit.

Getting pets "free" out of the newspaper is generally more expensive because they may not have had any veterinarian care, such as vaccinations or deworming. However, it depends and may be worth looking into.

The other option is to buy from a breeder. This is best if you are looking for a purebred, registered, animal. Reputable breeders breed with the main interest of improving the breed and have shown the parents to prove their worth as breeding animals. Finding a reputable breeder is a whole other matter, you can ask a vet, dog groomer, or your local dog club (these will also be able to tell you where your local shelter or SPCA).

Now, you must remember to stick to your promises to your parents and to the pet.

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Comments (8)
#1 by savannah, May 6, 2008
well i think that if the kid is willing to do what ever then they should be able to get that pet. i mean you should be happy that your kids want a pet cuz most kids just want to be lazy plus its a good test for you to see how resonsible your kid is. trust me i got a bunny a dog and a cat and i am very well rounded plus i am only 12. so really look into gettin a pet in intead of just saying NO just of the first askin. look in to it and tell them you will look in to it and my be they wont bother as long as they would if you strate up said no. THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU SAY NO WITH OUT THINKING ABOUT IT......!!!!!!
#2 by Karen, May 15, 2008
I agree completly with ^ savannah^. I had 1 chinchilla and my parents didnt want it @ furst. Then i got 2. Youjust have to be nice to them and keep asking why they wont let you have one. Eventually they will have no reasons left and then you\'ll get it. But you really have to want it!
#3 by Kevin, May 17, 2008
My wife gave in to giving our daughter a guinea pig and now she's not wanting it any more. I want nothing to do with the thing and wife's not really taking care of it either. So the poor thing is suffering. And it's not just giving it away or letting it out.
So think twice before giving your kid a pet.
Nice article anyway, if you kids read and comprehend it you might be suitable for a pet.
#4 by wally, Jun 8, 2008
I am an adult. I bought 2 guinea pigs for my office (I was self-employed) they were babies and were "so cute". About 2 weeks later I went to the pet store for more food and came back with 2 more guinea pigs, a big cage and all the gear. Those guinea pigs were so funny and cute, but expensive to maintain as they grew like weeds. THEN, something happened that I couldn't stay in that building and I had to work at home. I had 2 cats at home. The only place I could put 4 guinea pigs so the cats wouldn't terrorize them, was in my bedroon! Needless to say, this was not the best scenario for me or the piggies. I took good care of them for about a year and a half and then they started to die one by one. Now I have no pets (the cats were very old and got cancer and had to be euthanized). So, the moral to the story is this.... Don't get a pet just because it is "CUTE". Try to think ahead, like Savannah said, what if you have to move? etc. The article has very good points. Pay attention to all of them.
#5 by Ann, Jun 28, 2008
I agreed with this article but what if your parents say we already have too many pets? This is the only reason they had and I can't really get around it.
#6 by zipper, Jun 29, 2008
tell your mom ya we have alot of pets but i do take care of them dont i
#7 by Kiitchi, Jul 4, 2008
Do you think it's fair that your parents make you get this one pet instead of the pet you really want. I want a rabbit, and I'd be fine to take care of it (I'm 13 going on 14 in October.) But then my parents say "start with two legs" so the only animal I can get are birds. But I don't really like birds. I don't favor the idea of having them as a pet all that much (I just don't like birds as much as I do rabbits or cats) but that's the only way I can get a "four-legged animal" because it's "easier." Do you think it's easier to take care of an animal you like and want to care for, or an animal you get just so you can get another one later?
#8 by B Nelson - author, Jul 4, 2008
to Kiitchi

indeed telling a child they can have a pet they do not want is not good.. you will not bond with it, and therefore will not care for it. I would NOT get a pet you do not LOVE.

Also Birds are WAYYYY harder and more messier than bunnies!!!
plus the cost of a decent bird cage and toys is much higher.
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