Today, we are in an age where as we all want to be liked by every one we meet. This was once a teen-age attribute.
Once one reach an age considered “adult”, they went about their lives attempting to form meaningful relationships, pursuing career goals, starting families and preparing for a comfortable retirement. This is not the norm for many adults, rather, to appear as young, sexy and permissive as possible and be liked because of it.
Many adults today have become caught up in this “immortal” trap. Many adult men and women have not graciously accepted the notion of gracefully aging. This has led to a cult of adults attempting to be as young as teen-agers, most frightful, their own teen-agers.
These adults, although parents of teen-agers, attempt to dress and act like teens. You may faithfully find females of this mentality, dieting to maintain a perfect “size 4”, although studies indicate that the average woman is in fact, between sizes 8-12. Maintaining the “size 4”, these women can still fit into their “skinny” jeans and all of the fashions real teens wear. So, other than women who are by heredity, small in
statute, What gives with these women who are either literally
killing themselves to be a size 4 or are willing to lie about being a size 4; even at the sake of buying at expensive boutiques offering phony size-tags.
On the other hand, there are men who are fathers of teen-agers, yet, will strut like a peacock (yes, the pretty
Peacocks are males) when they are around females younger than twenty.
Unbeknownst to many of these “perpetual” teens is the fact that teens, their own and others, truly wish they would stop.
Stop trying to be what they are not. It comes off as being disingenuous. Besides, these adults had their teen-age years and, if they were to be honest with themselves, they were not very good ones. First, as teen they were not old enough to do anything, unless, they sneaked and did it, even faked their age to be older. Many were awkward around the opposite sex and often were ignored or teased because they were not popular. So, Why would any clear-thinking adults, with all the rights and privilege to do whatever you want, as long as they do not break the law, want to try to be someone, who in the scheme of things, are not allowed to do much of anything.
Full Circle
This brings us back to what children truly want. Children want adults, whether they are their parents or not, to be someone who set standards, to hold them accountable; who
know the pitfalls of life, yet, are honest enough to remember when they were a teen-ager; put themselves in the teens’ place, knowing how difficult is was. Finally, multiplied how it was then by 100 and factor it to the 2d power.
Teens want adults to have open ears and an understanding heart. They have friends, who do not have much experience; who are guessing what will happen if they do this or that. And will be the first to gossip, take pictures on their cell phone and discuss them via text messages when mistakes are made.
Where are the adults who are willing to be adults? As an adult, I truly believe that we can make a huge difference in the world if we do what is so natural, grow up and let children be children.
