The Perfect family.
What would anyone consider as a perfect family? The mother and the father together happily married with their children, or is that what you only see from the outside, not looking in?
It's really amazing how many people i know that think the mother and the father have to be together for the sake of their child, but what about in some cases where it's better off for the child for them not to be together.
I am a single mother with one child, which is three. My son, joseph, was a unplanned pregnancy. I had him when i was 16 years old. At the time, i wanted me and the father to be together. Just for the simple fact that my father committed suicide in 1993 when i was 5. I just thought that it would be the best for my son, having his father in his life. Well, as far as i can say is that i was wrong. He wasn't anywhere prepared for the responsibilty and he was 23 years old. I was accused of sleeping around when i told him i was pregnant. He still didn't want to believe me even after the DNA tests proved he was the father. So, that's when i realized i can do this on my own. I can give him just as much love and more than i could with his father being there.
Sometimes the things you may think are best for your child, are just the opposite. My mother did her best to raise us four children on her own. I believe we turned out just fine without a father. Although i still do think about him and wonder what it would be like if he was here. My life would be completely different.
One of my close friends, has a very sticky situation, which im sure there's plenty of you out there that have the same thing going on. But she has a son also and were the same age, 21. We were pregnant at the same time and delivered 3 months apart. She had a very abusive boyfriend at the time, and i can remember her crying plenty of times after they would fist fight. Yes, fist fight throwing each other around. She would stand her ground, tuff old gal. But she still tried to make it work even after all the abusivness she had put herself in. To just make it work for their son. But that sounds silly in some eyes, but love can take a toll on your soul, body and mind. I was heartbroken also to not be able to make it work. Im happier than i could ever be now. She has come to realize this also.
So what do we think we can do to try to make the perfect family? To make it last. Or do some of us put a front on in front of our children so they can't see the unhappiness, and the frustration that linger between you and your dearly beloved? So it looks like nothing is wrong in your childs eyes. We put our hearts on the line sometimes for the sake of trying to be happy. Instead of admitting it to each other and getting the heartache overwith. Letting the child decide if they want to see their father, mother what ever the situation may be. But to lie to one another and your child is a selfish thing to do for yourselfs sake and your childs. Why deny another love that could come into your life, and show the same kind of love that you wanted the father to show? Why can't another man step up and take this place. Be the man, for the love of a child?
So, what can we really do to make a perfect family? Live a lie or live with a free spirit, no worries. Some may think impossible. I believe otherwise. Of course you'll always have something to worry you, but what about when it's something what could have been prevented, or avoided by just telling the truth to yourselves. Money could never fix an unhappy home. I believe that you have to try to be the purest you in whatever situation you may encounter. Do what you believe is best not what you think is best. What does your gut tell you, 99% of the time it's right. I fixed my unhappy home just by changing my surroundings. The people i let in my life and around me. I am happy to say that it is not a perfect family, but very close to the happiness that i want to achieve.
A change of heart, a change of mind, your surroundings, can make you and your childs life a better one. It's your choice. The keeper to the answers of your own destiny. So what will it take to try and make your family the perfect family?
