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School Bully: Five Ways to Handle Them

Every parent's worst nightmare as they send their child to school. Here are five suggestions parents tell their child as they prepare for school.

School bully - the parents' nightmare when you send your precious child to school for the first time, especially when the child is small in size, cries easily and does not feel secure. We take all preventive measures to ensure that the school environment is safe and conducive for our child to study. But sometimes there are just some things that we cannot control. The school bully.

Here are 5 ways to handle them

Avoid them

Tell your child that once they have been approached by the school bully, try by all means to avoid further contact with them.

Stay with friends

Teach them to not to wander by themselves. Find friends and always go everywhere together.

Do not aggravate the bully

The bully just wants attention drawn to them. They want to strike terror in the hearts of young students in the school, so that they will feel better with themselves. If the child does get picked on, he just has to find a quick exit without making the situation worse.

Report to the teacher or you

When the bullying gets bad, your child has to tell an adult to stop the bad situation to becoming worse. Assure your child that telling an adult and asking for help out of a bad situation is not wrong.

Enroll in a self-defense class

This will help your child's self esteem as he gets more confident of his ability to protect himself.

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Comments (9)
#1 by Rachel, May 9, 2008
wish there were no school bullies :(
#2 by Rebecca Anne Grant, May 9, 2008
I think we all have dealt with these situations. I had a girl who was bullying me by kicking the back of my chair all day long at school. One day I got fed up and turned around and slapped the devil right out of her. It surprised me that I did that, and it surprised her that I would stand up to her. After that, she became my best friend. Later, I found out that her father was my dad's best friend in school also. What a small world. The point is that a bully only does these things because they think that you are scared of them. Once they find out that you're not they stop. My son had the same problem. He took all he could stand too, then put his bully against the wall one day. Guess what? No more bullying. I am not supporting fighting, only standing up for yourself when enough is enough and you can't take it anymore. I was a shy girl and a lot smaller too. Even the little ones can only stand so much. It's the blow-up theory. You act then think later. Look out bullies! They are out there and sometimes they come in groups.
#3 by Rachel, May 10, 2008
My 12 year old boy had the same experience. When he brought it up to us we informed the teacher. The 2 boys are ok now :) thank goodness.
#4 by derek martin, May 11, 2008
good advice. well done!
#5 by Rachel, May 11, 2008
hi derek,

thank you for your encouragement. :)
#6 by Francie, May 11, 2008
Freeing this world of bullies would be an awesome task for sure. What works for some does not necessarily work for another. Bullying is a huge problem in our schools and needs to be addressed in class and in our homes especially. If there are problems at home it some times manifests itself at school. Sad be the innocent victim that is the object of some others scorn. The consequences to that unsuspecting individual can be devastating. There are no quick or easy answers to ending this frequent problem. At times drugs are involved and the bully harms someone whether stood up to or not. There again are no tried and true methods for handling school bullies. It may sound right to stand up for oneself and makes fine sense but even that does not always do the trick. Watch out, teach your children well at home, model good behavior. No-one is ever free from the wrath of another that is clearly out of control. Hitting or slapping is not the answer, violence usually begets violence. I say NO to this one.

I am passionate on this subject and write and speak frequently about it, No easy answers. Many good books out on the subject, especially \'Bully Proof Your Child for Life\' by Joel Haber and Jenna Glatzer.

Thanks for your article Rachel.
#7 by Rachel, May 12, 2008
Yes, I agree with you Francie... usually bullying starts from the home. The child either models from another sibling (usually older) or has to learn to defend himself at home and brings his frustration to school to take it out on a weaker victim. It's really unfair when we teach our children to be kind and to share their things in school and they are being taken advantage of.

The self-defence class is for SELF-defence when (at the worst case!) being attacked by the bully. We can't be there for our children all the time, thus I find that empowering my children makes them more confident. But, it takes time and energy! So be patient, parents. :)
#8 by Kathy @ www.yeahyeahoutloud.com, May 12, 2008
Attending a conference recently the presenter also mentioned that we are as guilty as the bully, if we stand by and do nothing. Not allowing it to happen on "your watch" can be the first step to allowing others to be proactive to stop what they see going on!
#9 by Rachel, May 12, 2008
Hi Kathy,

Oh yes, I completely agree. But many of us are always told to mind our own business and at the same time we don't want the bully's attention to be diverted to us! It is a sad situation where no one comes forward to help.

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