Need or Passion?

As a woman of the modern world, the expectation is to be independent and career minded. But once we start building a family and have kids, the priorities change dramatically. We could get a lot of support from our husbands to build the careers, however, the family needs the wife to manage the home and kids. Each one of us want to achieve more and the get the best of every thing. The demands are endless and schedules are exhausting. Life has become hectic, leading to social and emotional pressures, stress. Many of us who are working and have a family to manage go through a lot of struggle.

Some of us are professionals (doctors, lawyers etc.), have strong reasons for working and are often clear on their choice to build their careers along with their families. They are better prepared of what they are going to do in the future and tend to manage both well. There are some of us who are passionate about their careers and others who need to financially support their families. Regardless of the choice, passion or need, each one of us struggles to maintain the balance between work and family and manage the stress.

Undoubtedly some manage both quite well and succeed. My observation is, women who succeed in managing their family and job will often have a genuine reason for their job.

However some women who actually don't have the need nor enjoy their job yet don't give up, perhaps for the fear of change and get stressed up with their lives. They are required to check whether they have the need, goal and a reason for their struggle. If you have the need, there is no choice but to manage stress. If you have the passion then you have a reason to manage stress but if you don't have both then “why to go through stress” ?We should not have a job just for most women are working, rather we should have it because we want it. Most of the times the stress is the dilemma whether to continue or quit, whether job or family..

Those who do not work for a need or a specific reason, do not know the cost of their working. They end up spending what they had earned elsewhere in the process of balancing their jobs and family. When you don't have a need or a passion for the job, we are actually earning and spending for no reason. The struggle and the stress between the job and the family is mere waste. Why to build stress with such things and then try to de-stress? Now-a-days with plenty of opportunities, things have become more difficult. No doubt, those have the need are getting benefited but the rest have no idea why they work and get hassled and struggle with their families.

We should know “why to manage stress” and not “how to manage it.” Women who are working should identify the reasons for their stress and realize whether they have the need or passionfor their job and struggle.

Just think: you are struggling may be for your child needs you more than your job or your passion is something else or for the reason you chose this job, that reason is not accomplished. Identify your need and passion. Identify yourself!