Family is made up of different people. Your wife or husband and your children are all different people and sometimes see things differently once a while. We will not forget the extended family too, because there are also parts of the family.
So, with this entire people put together, family conflict is not an issue to be sidelined but an issue to prepare for, so as to treat it when it rises. You as a parent handling family conflicts will have to apply wisdom at all time so as to keep the family in one peace and joy at all time, because we definitely want co-operation and harmony in our family.
- When you are confronted with a conflict in you family, do not act immediately. First try cooling the situation, and then study the situation and the action you intend to take so as to come out with the best solution to the problem.
- Try listening to both party, their comments and viewpoint. This will help you to analyze the situation better. Some people have problem listening while engaging in conflicts. They might not even want to hear you explain, so why not try using words like for example “ in other words he stepped on you and did not apologize “. This will make this party feel that there are being heard and understood.
- Most cases you should solve your in present of the whole family. Stating your point firmly and with points. This will state your authority in the family and will go along way in preventing future occurrence of same kind in the future.
- When the dispute is between you and your partner, try solving it and showing the rest of the family peace terms openly. Do not feel to big. Show compromise some times and call the whole family to apologize when you are wrong. This will induce self-humility within the members of you family.
- Sometimes there might not be an agreement at that time but still apply wisdom so to keep the family in peace. Note that children will learn a lot when you solve family cases amicably without violence and shouting often.
With all this techniques, you would have managed most of your family's conflict.
