For years and years, there has been a consensus that women are the weaker sex in almost everything. Despite a sense of continued progress toward gender equality in the workplace, there has been information from the federal government that has confirmed that the workplace earnings gap between men and women still persists today. Higher levels of education increase women's earnings, just as they do for men. However, there is no evidence that the gender gap in wages closes at higher levels of education. If anything, the reverse is true: at the very highest levels of education, the gap is at its largest.
In spite of those facts, more and more men today are asking their ex wives to pay alimony and child support . It seems as if women get more upset when they have to pay child support because it is society's belief that they are the weaker ones and if so, why should the “weakling” be asked to pay a man, the “stronger one,” money?
Every situation is different and if you, as a woman, are “better off” financially than your ex and he is trying to raise your child/children, you should pay child support. You have to be there for that child because, the child should be the only thing that matters after the divorce.
Since the consensus is that women are the weaker sex, how do we feel about a man who quits his job, so that he does not have to pay child support then asks the ex wife for the opportunity to raise their child which she gives him, then he starts his own business, puts it in his new wife's name and then claims he has no income so that he can get child support from his ex wife? And his business is doing well! Is this obsession, greed, lack of pride, vengeance or just a fact of not having any values? Or is he just weak…weaker than the weaker sex? Which is it?
Basically, here we have a man who is claiming to have nothing to his name. No bank account, no home, no car, no business….. no self respect…no pride…no values….absolutely nothing. Is this the type of man you want to raise your child….your son? What is he teaching him?
This is, by far, not a story to bash men because not all men do this, in fact, there are women that are guilty of doing this. So this is not a story about men, it is a story about a “weak man.”
What kind of satisfaction will he get after he has won the money he is requesting? Will he finally stop obsessing over his ex wife? Will it give him closure or will he find something else to go after her for? The big question is, during this time that he is taking to sue his ex for money and they are fighting in court, what is it doing to the CHILD? Where are the priorities? Shouldn't the child be the priority?
Not many have heard of a deposition in child support cases, but this man who is supposedly not making any money had his ex wife deposed by his attorney for more than four hours. An average deposition cost about $250 per hour for the attorney and maybe another $100 per hour for the court reporter which totals about $1,500 for the four hours. During the deposition she was asked questions like: “what proof do you have that he owns a business?” Who cares if he owns a business or not? Why not step up to the plate and be a human being and concentrate on raising your child and not your ex.
What is this vindictiveness proving? That he is a bitter man, a man scorned and one has not self respect. He chose the situation he is in. It is not the ex's fault that he is miserable. Why not get his own life and leave the ex to live hers with the only thing of discussion between them being “the child.”
This goes to show that people will do whatever they have to do to bring someone down to their level. To this woman I say……
“He wants to be the reason for everything and so …
Do not allow him to be the cause of anything.
He wants to control your life and be a part of it, so don't let him.
Let your light shine on… because he is trying to bring you down to where he is…at the bottom of the pit.
Don't give him the self gratification he needs to lift himself up but pray for him because in spite of everything … he is your child's' other parent.
