How many children do you have? How many people tell you how to raise your children?
How many child rearing, child training, child teaching, Dr. Spock books have you read. how
many times have you heard someone say that one child was (slow) because he wasn't doing what
another child was doing. Of all the guides, tell me truly, how many of them worked?
The worst thing someone can do is compare one child to another. There are guides to their
growth and motor skills, as well as speech. We know that if a child is five and can't walk or talk
he needs to be assessed. Some children develop faster than others, some may walk at nine months
while others may not walk until they are closer to a year. Some children speak coherently at an
early age, and others don't.
Children respond to the stimulus that is around them.. Now I will have parents worrying that
they aren't giving the child enough attention, no. I am not talking about neglectful, or abusive
parents.
What has to be understood, children are little people, they have feelings, concerns and their own
individual personalities.
I saw a little girl ten months old start to walk, the first four or five steps were tentative but,
after those steps, she walked and I do mean walked, I never saw her hold her hands up in the air
to balance herself. Her brother on the other hand, balanced himself and fell many times.
The personalities of children are amazing.. The afore mentioned children although siblings, are
different as night and day. The little girl is bold, and likes attention, but she has a limit of how
much she can be held and kissed. The little boy is lovable, very sensitive, there is no end to
his affection. They are different and these are children from the same family.
So look at your children, watch them, get to know their individualism. Because one does this at
a certain age doesn't mean the other is, or should do it then. As long as it is in the normal
ranges of functionality. It would be a wiser thing to take pictures and videos and create memories
something you can look back on. A record of the differences between children, even your children.
