Traditional ways a Visual Mom would receive love is if your buy her gifts or take her out for breakfast/brunch/lunch/dinner/coffee etc.
However you can also take it to the next level and make something for you Mom i.e. a cake, a scarf, make dinner, paint a picture etc.
You can even take it to the even the next level and do something with her like cook together, garden together, or go for a walk together.
Then the ultimate level (and my favorite) to “take care” of your Mom such as have her relax in front of the TV or with a good book as you cook dinner or clean the house or have a sleep over then get up early and serve your Mom breakfast in bed just like you may have done when you were a kid. (This really takes on special meaning for a parent once you are an adult.)
AUDITORY people communicate through talking. They have the natural gift of the gab, are designed to be able to talk for long periods of time. They enjoy talking and listening to other people talk. They feel loved when they are talked to, and like to hear the words “I love you.”
A quick way to tell if your Mom is an Auditory person is if she in a conversation she will say things like “Do you hear what I am saying or I hear what you are saying or I hear you.”
For an Auditory Mom say “I Love You” and how much you care for her out loud. You can say it as often as possible as well, because Auditory Moms love when you talk, but even if you can get in just one “I love you” it will mean so much to an Auditory Mom.
DIGITAL people communicate through connection and understanding. They find the deeper meaning in everything they think, see and do. Understanding is very important to them. They feel loved when they share connections with others and are understood.
A quick way to tell if your Mom is a Digital person is if she is in a conversation she will say things like “Do you know what I mean or I understand what you mean.”
For a Digital Mom ask her what she would like to talk about because you want to connect with her and ask her if there is anything that she needs to understand about and that you will help her to understand. Just as important ask her if there is anything that she would like you to understand about her.
It may seem like an odd way of showing that you love her - but she will really feel loved.
Kinesthetic people communicate through their bodies. They move, feel and express through their bodies. Kinesthetics love to touch, feel and do physical activities. They feel loved when they are touched.
A quick way to tell if your Mom is a kinesthetic person is if she in a conversation she will say things like “I get a feeling for it or I know how your feel.”
Different people feel loved in different ways, but with a Kinesthetic Mom you can't go wrong with a hug.
Even if your Mom was taught not to show physical expressions of love as a child, she will still absolutely love and appreciate being hugged.
You may even be able to break through the “hug barrier” like my sister did with our family.
One day, several years ago my sister (even though we were all Kinesthetic in our family, we learned from our Mom not to show physical expressions of love to fellow family members) said to my Mom “I am going to give you a hug” and ever since then our whole family hugs everybody all the time.
Other Kinesthetic ways of giving love include rubbing your Mom's back, giving her a massage, brushing her hair, holding hands or snuggling close together to name a few.
I was lucky because I am a blend of all four communication modes so I felt loved in the modes that my Mom was able to express in, plus my Mom was naturally Auditory and Kinesthetic so she was able to express in these modes once she felt safe to do so, such as in the case of just recently saying “I love you” to me.
However, the majority of society may not know that we are all unique and we all have our own ways of showing and receiving love so why not try out all the different ways giving and expressing love so you will truly allow you Mom to feel all the love you have for her.
