Abandonment is when a parent deserts the family, but it can also be
the result parents separating or the death of one of the parents. Sometimes
the effect of an ill parent being hospitalized or not being able to accommodate
the child or children with the adequate time is thought and felt by the child as abandonment. It can also be a case of drug or alcohol abuse. A parent sufficing to alcohol and drug usage is not mentally available, and to a child that can feel like abandonment.
Abandonment can causes problems in divorce cases for both parents and children. If one or both of the spouses have abandonment issues, divorce is very likely to ignite feudal events. Resulting in devastating behavior from both parents and children. For example:
Before family issues and divorce the children might be outstanding students, have many
Great achievements and so forth, yet during the ups and downs of family issues they
Undergo a transformation and become rebellious, a train wreck I may say, they become
Uncontrollable. They tend to do things they wouldn't normally dare to do, this in fact is part of the suffering a child undergoes while dealing with divorce of the parents and
abandonment issues.
Adults who are suffering from abandonment problems tend to commit heinous actions, but more often than not the one who is acting inappropriately is utterly unconscious of the force driving the madness, yet the desperate behavior may well reoccur after separation, when new concerns such as dealing with the child support issues must be accommodated. As for the child/children of divorcing parents, they undoubtedly experience their parents divorce as abandonment, especially if one of the parents leaves, moves away or does not visit regularly. Parents of these children need to be prepared for their child behaving in strange, rebellious and obscene ways. A child may over-react to the death of a pet. When a friend moves away, a child may suffer long
Periods of depression. A child feels abandoned may fall apart if he or she feels that no one understands them. Another, less obvious behavior, is the child who becomes the super achiever hoping the parent will then return.
