Discipline and how to work it. I have had a lot of input from many different parents that I associate with and many of them can’t agree on what the best way to discipline children. Actually when I had asked to question all the parents had started on their own to read the others later and then the great debate started.
One said that the see as I do and do as I do had to stop, another said that they use the every action has a consequence, another uses revoking privileges. Another yet avoids the problems and allows their child to figure things out on their own. The discipline fact varies depending on the parents.
With each parent and child there is a position that each takes, Authoritarian, Assertive, and Passive, are normally associated with the parents rolls. Rebellious, independent, and submissive are associated with the child’s rolls. With each there is a way of clashing and a way of getting along. But each individual actually must change in order to make the discipline work.
You can guess that an authoritarian parent and a rebellious child are going to clash and fight tooth and nail against each other. Well, an assertive parent would get farther than the authoritarian, and much farther than the passive parent. With each you can guess that a submissive child and a passive parent would be lost together in what they are doing.
With the prospect that people can change there is a lot to be said for the assertive/independent relationship between parent and child. That is the ideal, and with that discipline comes more naturally because in that instance the child is willing to give input on their actions as well as compromise the consequence and discipline that is chosen.
Think about your relationship with your child and ask yourself if the relationship that you have is what you want. You don’t want to be a friend when they are young and a parent when they are adults, you also don’t want to be hard as rock just because you are afraid that something bad will happen. You need to talk with your children and be able to express your concern in situations and the possibility of hurt.
