Something I was just thinking about that really got me thinking.
why are women still the only ones to change their names when getting married?
To me this sounds a "bit" possessive, as if the man acquires the woman in some sort of ritualistic take over. Women are truly slaves in this respect, they are basically treated like an object that the man receives and now brands as his object with his last name, like cattle.
Am I out in left field here or am I making any sense?
Do women really want to give up their names when they get married or is it something they just get used to like privacy, or ever being taken seriously in authority situations.
I think it is about time that couples decide who's name gets changed, perhaps it will do away with all this "I only want a boy" crap, the only reason people want to have a boy is because they know their name will live on, like they're doing anything to make that name worth carring on anyway!
I think women should stand up for themselves and tell their mates that they want to have a fair vote on who's name they shall use, I realize that two people voting will result in each person voting for themselves most times but if the couple really gives the idea some thought then they can decide on a name, or perhaps they can come up with a completely new name and then they can both adopt this name once they are married.
Do family names really mean anything anymore?
There are so many Smith's, Johnson's, Williams and Joneses out there already that there isn't any connection between the New Hartford Smith's and the Compton Smith's.
So why don't couples make their last names unique again?
I suppose this goes back to the question:
(This question is posed to a man)
"If you got a great job opportunity paying more than your wildest dreams but it was across the US, would you ask your wife and kids to move so you could take the position?"
"How about if your wife got the promotion, would you be willing to move for her?"
This it the root of the problem, men expect "their" women to change their names when they get married but would never even entertain the idea of changing theirs, why?
I once brought up to a friend of mine that when I get married I am going to take my wife's name and she went on the defensive, asking me why and what would have made me think of such a thing. Why is it ok for one to give up their identity while it never enters the other persons mind?
I once knew a guy who's wife got a once in a lifetime promotion but she had to move to Washington, he told her he would support her decision if she wanted to move to Seattle and they did. The last week he was in town his friends made fun of him for not wearing the pants in the family, some of the people making fun of him were women!
He was happy with his decision and he was looking forward to his new life with his very happy wife.
This is why I think women who take on their husbands name are basically slaves.
Women being treated as slaves is a topic for another discussion, most likely many!
P.S. Can you tell me how many possessive words I used?
