A mother’s worst nightmare, a child in your care and they get hurt. You feel helpless and angry at yourself for letting it happen. But at the same time it is wondered how it happened without your knowledge. The fear, that child welfare will step in and say that you are unfit to parent your own child all because of one accident. That is what mothers tend to fear the most, child welfare coming in and taking the children away.
With the way that things are going in society it is a wonder that women just don’t stop having children all together. Child welfare provides more fear in a mother’s life than anything else. All it takes is one incident to have child welfare in the picture to “protect” the children. But who is to protect the children from child welfare?
Many times I have seen friends and family lose their children for things that I could not contemplate as abuse or neglect. How ever child welfare came in and removed the children. I know that those parents didn’t do anything to deserve that kind of labeling and that they would never do anything to harm their children. But all simple little mistakes are what causes the family break ups with child welfare in the middle.
I am not saying that child welfare is not needed in the world today. Actually more than realized child welfare does actually save the live of children everyday, from parents that are neglectful and abusive. But at times I feel as if child welfare forgets that people are different and that they are raised differently. That accidents do happen and that there is nothing to change that. Child welfare has come to think that even an accident is neglect or abuse.
With that I have to say that when it comes down to the underestimating of a mothers ability to nurture and raise a child, child welfare is up there. Most mothers couldn’t even think about hurting their child and child welfare has come to believe that mothers are the first to snap and that single parents are more likely to hurt their children in frustration and emotional imbalance. Most of the stress that people go to under the spot light is mainly due to the nit picking of child welfare.
