A mother’s last nerve comes when everything just isn’t going where it needs to. No one listens, no one cares about her feelings, and no one gives her a break. I have two boys that are 3 and 4. I know what it is like to be on that last nerve and how bad that can be. I know of other mothers that have had heart attacks from home-related stress and have been on their last nerves for months. It doesn’t take much to help that from happening and yet is does so frequently, especially with a stay at home mom.
A stay at home mom is perceived as the person who can do it all and more. That alone causes greater stress than any other person could feel. That instant stress of the house can never be dirty, the errands have to be done, the children raised and fed and clothed and chauffeured to school or some kind of activity. Then comes the I should be doing more to make some money. That is to much for any person to with stand and is to much for one person to hold on their own. And still these types of things happen.
There are now, stay at home dads, I recognize that they get the same stress that stay at home moms do and still some how manage to get through the insane days of expectations that have been placed on him. Any kind of stay at home parent deals with just as much, if not more stress than any other. That stress is not easily relieved and very few get the relaxation that is needed.
I am a stay at home mom and I feel run down all the time. I don’t feel that I get the help and relaxation that I need but I keep doing what I can for my family. Every once in a while it just feels nice to get some time to relax by myself. I think that any stay at home parent needs time to reflect on what they have done and what more that they can do for themselves. I don’t feel that they need to through a hissy fit by any means. But to sit and have an hour every night even with the spouse around to just get through things that are bugging them and to figure out a way to manage.
With that there are many ways of managing but each parent is different and who they manage on their own. So in essence of how to manage I won’t give you what I do because it works for me. I don’t want to give people an answer that won’t work for every individual parent out there. But when a stay at home parent is on their last nerve that is a good indicator that someone needs to help and give more support. No matter how hard work was that day.
