I am not necessarily philosophical or not by the Webster' definition of the word. I do, however, consider myself to be rather insightful and intellectually deep. How's that for a self evaluation!
I, like so many others, have become overly concerned with the world today. Not the gas prices, nor the war or even the economy terrify me as much as the standards by which we are raising our children. It seems to me that Americans, in general, have lost the basic parenting morals needed to raise a healthy, independent and responsible child. What the hell are we doing? Our children are turning to drugs, alcohol, sex and worst of all violence. I say worst of all because all the others lead to violence and well I am more afraid of a child with a gun than with a condom. I am not a holy rolling Christian but I do have substantial faith that I try to incorporate in raising my own fledglings.
Unfortunately, to many of us have to work long, hard hours in order to financially support our families, therefore our children spend more time with basic care givers and not true role models. I do urge everyone to become financially independent because welfare is but yet another toxic subject. We are in a world that allows us to be laxadaisy(lazy) in our discipline because we are too tired or it's too late to bother with or what time we have should be spent loving the child not disciplining them. I feel this way so many times and fall to far down the parenting ladder. Our patience wears thin and our anger flares. Then what? We scream, yell, sometimes even raise our hands, just to catch a glimpse in a mirror of a 5ft7 body embracing a 3 year old tantrum. How embarrassing is that?
The children today are spoiled, unappreciative and emotionally unstable. (That comment being generalized.) We lavish them with an abundance of toys, games, clothes, and nonessentials that increases their desire for such items. We buy them overly priced brand name clothes and shoes and create a dreadful pattern then wonder why they won't work for the things they want. More 10 year olds have cell phones today than adults did ten or even 5 years ago. Doesn't that sound insane that a 10 year old or younger would have the freedom and irresponsibility of such a device., to call or text to and from anyone they want. Some parents use the excuse that they want to know where their kids are so they gave them a cell phone to keep in touch. Ever heard of talking to your child? There once was a time when parents demanded that children report home every hour or so and that they always have knowledge or where they are, who they are with and what they are doing. I grasp the threatening concept that the world has become a sick and demented place where you cannot allow your children to roam about like so many years ago. The mental stability of so many people has been compromised and the warped sense of love and desire is tarnished on our children. But it is a parents responsibility to know where their child is and whom they are with. The adult you entrust your child with should have unquestionable trust. If any doubt then don't let your child be there.
The beautiful, young, free spirited children of the world(which encompasses all children) are slowly being extensively ridiculed by bullies, tortured by abusers, neglected by care givers and therefore growing into young, troubled, corrupted tweens. The only solution these children consider is to act out. These children will run away and hit the streets where they will dangerously do whatever it takes to survive and the extremes needed to survive in this world can be devastating. Some may conquer their pain and frustration by growing up to be stable, mature young adults. But what about the others, the badly neglected or mistreated, fragile souls who can only justify raw acts of violence as revengeful healing. Some only kill neighborhood cats or do minor graffiti to expose their grief. Some draw their pain into such horror that we have school shootings and hostel situations. Then there are those that squeak by adolescence visually unscathed and allow themselves to develop into fully controlled raging murderers, often serial killers. Who do you blame? The poor tortured soul who was unable to lick his own wounds and transform into a decent human being or the outrageous animals who damaged him and turned him into such a despising individual. There is no way to choose or place appropriate blame. It is, however, the responsibility of each and every parent to offer love, shelter, discipline, protection and morality to their children.
The acts of “days by day make it through without any major complications, rut of a routine” parenting techniques that we are utilizing today are going to roughly mold and possibly destroy everything we know. The children need daily direction with a gentle loving hand. The only way to stop the viscous cycle that the future hold is to change how we parent and parent only for the good of the child. Even is that means extra time prying information out of a troubled child to make sure their thoughts are just thoughts. Talk to your children, if you're concerned then talk to the children who talk to your children. They are the future of America and your future and my future. Even for all of that are quite simply and pure a child.
